Tee Lee, my girlfriend says she still talks to her ex-boyfriend but they are just friends. Sometimes I get a bad vibe that something is going on and the feeling just won't go away. I checked her cell phone the other day and the guy was telling her he could not wait to see her again. I was pissed the *^%%^* off!! I ask my girlfriend why they are having such conversations and she says they are just friends. I told her I don't want her talking to the guy anymore and if I am working and paying the bills to take care of us and our kids than she better stop talking to this guy or I will drop her and take my kids with me.
What should I do? Pissed off in Texas.
Well Pissed off in Texas, first let me say that threats never do work in any relationship neither do heated ultimatums. Your best bet is to ask her if she is truly happy in the relationship and is there something she feels the relationship is lacking in terms of closeness with you. Try not to add anything into the equation such as: I work and pay the bills, I will take the kids and leave, or you better stop talking to the guy; these are dangerous statements that you will be forced to either enforce regrettably or wish you never spewed out in anger. Checking her phone is a sign of insecurity and also shows you don't trust her. If you are having feelings of distrust with her you have to visit this with her immediately and let her know you care about her and want the relationship to work, but if you don't get honest and direct answers than you may be considering ending the relationship. But, never strong arm your partner because it shows you use leverage in the wrong way.
Thanks, TeeLee!!!
What if she keeps playing games *%*^cking around with guy and gets pregnant while we are still married? I am responsible for her baby and the kid I already got?
ReplyDeleteBefore you go to such extremes make sure you actually have proof she is going outside of the relationship. That is a huge accusation you are making and if it should happen, no court in the land will make you pay for child that is not yours. Try not to let yourself get too overwhelmed with the ifs before you have even dealt with the current. One step at a time..
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