Teelee, I am in
a huge dilemma. I got married to a woman years ago because she was pregnant I wanted
my child to have a proper family. I also did not want my parents to be ashamed
of me having children out of wedlock. Over the years I have had good life with
my wife and child, but I feel a super strong pull to go back to the Navy and
travel like I did years ago. I don’t really want out of this relationship, but I
don’t feel special here and I felt so happy and special when I was in the Navy.
I wake up desperately wanting to go pursue my dream of traveling again before I
get to old to go. I know it sounds selfish because I have a great job,
marriage, kids, and I still feel somewhat trapped. I don’t want to hurt my
family but I really want to get out of here and go back to the Navy. What can I
do? Wanna be free in Wisconsin.
Well Wanna be free, if you are unhappy, I promise you
that everyone around you can feel it to. No matter how much money you make,
no matter who you are with, no matter where you are, if you don’t feel happy
and special in your life you will make everyone else totally miserable around
you. If you daydream about the old days, lose concentration at work, are
disconnected at home, and are feeling a super desperate feeling, than you are
suffering from withdrawal of your old life. You have to decide if you are going
to be practical or happy. I know it sounds abrupt, but remember, when something
makes you feel happy and special you have to grab at it because life won’t give
you too many chances to be truly happy. Many
men serve in the war and still keep their families so it is possible, but it is
a huge adjustment to a woman who has never had a military spouse before.
Something is driving the overwhelming need to leave home,
meaning something at home is not fulfilling your needs enough to stop the past
from seeping in. Speak to your wife about your goals, wishes, and needs and see
if she is willing to accept having a Navy husband. If not, then you have an
extremely difficult choice to make. Leave and be happy again or stay and pursue
counseling and support with your spouse and family so you can feel whole and
happy at home.
TeeLee
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