Well I am now completing my master's degree and boy was it one long ride. It cost me friendships, some health, some sanity, and of course a half baked relationship attempt. What is a girl to do?? I am happy at the future outlook, but sad at the loss suffered along the way. Some people say get over it and move on, but those people of course have not lost anything close to what I have lost and been able to move on. I now move to the beat of my own drum and ready to get moving in the right direction.
Part of my future entails being in the community and of course running a column that speaks to the needs of people who are stuck in the daily crap of life. I will be posting the questions sent to me as well as the answers so everyone can gain a different perspective on how they wish to proceed in their own life.
Well let's get going people! The first question was:
TeeLee, how can I tell if this guy really likes me? He is so wishy washy. One minute he is calling me sexy and telling me he loves me and the next minute he talks to me like I am one of his home boys, cutting me short in conversations, not acknowledging me in public, and talking to me like I am one of his home boys. What can I do? Confused in Indiana.
Well Confused in Indiana, when a man likes/loves you he will drop hints that won't be confusing. He will ask you out, contact you and want to hear about "you". If he contacts you and only talks about himself with no interest in you than you are nothing more than a sounding board and a release of tension for him. What are you getting out of talking to him? The relaxation should be a mutual feeling. If he calls you sexy and tells you he loves you and the next day acts like you are his cool-J-buddy, then you have a flake on your hands who does not know what he wants. The next time you speak with him, limit the amount of time he gets and move on to a man who is actually desiring you without the games. You can also ask your friend if he is just to shy to tell you he cares and see what his response is. Most men will respond to you if the door is opened the right way.
Okay well what if it is somebody you are already dating acting all flaky?!
ReplyDeleteIf you are already dating and he starts pulling away and becoming distant in a buddy sort of way, you need to clarify with him if there is an unresolved issue within the relationship.
Deleteshould I break up with him??
DeleteOnly if you feel the relationship is going no where or you are being abused or disrespected. Other than that, you need to talk to him and find out where the distance is coming from.
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